So what are you building with your life?

Are you living a life of “what could have been” when you could be living a life of “all you were created to be”?

There is a new skyscraper on the rise in Boston. My frequent drives through the city usually land me stuck in the middle of morning rush hour traffic, the perfect venue to watch this new building come to life.

Every time I pass by, I see the steel structure has grown a few floors taller, the steel workers bolting one steel beam into place and then another, and then another. Not much to look at in it’s current configuration, but that’s just part of the process.

Building anything of substance usually takes time. It starts with a vision and then a strategy and then the implementation of the Continue reading “Building The Greatest Version of You” →

Are you actually buying into your idea of who it is you think you are?

In a rare moment I recently found myself sitting alone on my deck. Just relaxing. It wasn’t for very long, just long enough to notice I was actually relaxing.

Our house is situated not to far from a major highway. I remember all we ever heard during our first weeks here was the annoying hum of cars and trucks racing down the interstate. Over time we simply got used to the noise as it gradually just blended into the background. The noise didn’t go away, we just didn’t hear it any more.

During my moment of relaxation on the deck I was able to momentarily sit back and enjoy the sounds of nature all around me, especially the birds sharing their distinctive songs. My focus on nature was abruptly broken by the sound of a motorcycle screaming down the not-to-distant highway.

VOICES SURROUND US Our world is full of ambient noises, of millions of voices just waiting to be heard. Sit at a table in any restaurant and shift your focus Continue reading “Hummingbirds, Harleys and The Voices In Your Head” →

Life has a funny way of throwing things at you, doesn’t it? Here we are just cruising along and from out of nowhere life drops it’s latest challenge into our lap.

Every challenge brings with it two different outcomes. Sometimes the challenge gets the best of us, stopping us dead in our tracks. Sometimes the challenge alters our course but not our ultimate destination. Either way, we are the ones who will determine the outcome.

Life is all about how we respond to the unexpected, when Plan A comes crashing down. Our responses are habitually predictable. We already know how we’ll react in most situations because it’s how we’ve always reacted. We already know if we will overcome the challenge that stands before us.

GREAT EXPECTATIONS? Our habitual responses to what life throws at us are rooted in our expectations of ourselves. Some expect to succeed, to prevail in the face of adversity. Others buckle under the perceived pressures, doubt and uncertainty reappear as expected.

What do you expect from you?

Continue reading “The Art of Overcoming Yourself” →

“…We are not here to merely contemplate our own greatness. We are here to achieve it.”

I recently found myself on the USA/Canadian border where northern Maine meets the province of New Brunswick. The funny thing about the border in this area is that there is no actual physical border. No wall, no river, no razor wire. There are small markers indicating where the two nations come together, but for the most part the border is nothing but a line drawn on a map. With this line comes an understanding of it’s boundaries and limitations, agreed to and respected.

Standing on this borderless border, it would be very easy to cross over to the other side. But we don’t, because we accept the limitations placed before us.

Sometimes in our own lives we come face to face with our own personal boundaries and limitations. These are boundaries and limitations that we accept and respect even though there is nothing physically restraining us from moving beyond these self-inflicted Continue reading “There Is No Doubt About Your Greatness” →

Go ahead. Grab the books off the book shelf in your living room. And the ones on your nightstand. And the ones in the bathroom, too.

It’s time to burn the books.

Don’t get me wrong. I love books. Sometimes I think I love them too much. I like non-fiction books that tell me how to do things. Things like building a deck, using my crock pot, or finding Jesus.

Not surprisingly, in a book store you’ll usually find me in the personal development section, scanning through the inspirational, self- Continue reading “It’s All About Moving Forward” →

I used to think happiness was something you could think yourself into. You know, “just look on the bright side” and everything suddenly looks better. And to some extent that philosophy is true. How we choose to see things greatly impacts what it is we actually see.

Getting to the bright side is one thing, but staying there is another. Eventually, the glossy shimmer of bright side thinking slowly fades, usually no match for the pressures and intensity of a world that can be very unforgiving.

Bright side thinking is a veneer of sorts. New wallpaper covering the same old cracks in the wall. As well intended as it is, it’s a thought process that usually lacks depth and substance. There is no root system to hold it in place during the storms of uncertainty, doubt, and Continue reading “The Problem with Optimism” →

So here’s the question…Do you appreciate you?

No, I didn’t ask if you liked you.

Do you appreciate you?

Do you appreciate all that you already are and all that you were created to become? Do you appreciate all the talents, gifts, and abilities that reside within you? Do you appreciate your voice, your vision, your passion? Do you appreciate the importance of the contribution that only you can make in this world?

Do you appreciate your significance?

Growing up no one ever told me I should appreciate myself.  To be fair, no one ever told me I shouldn’t appreciate myself, either. Appreciation was only a topic of conversation when I would complain about all the stuff I didn’t have. That made me ungrateful and unappreciative. That’s as close as I ever got to discussing appreciation.

WORTHINESS The world has a word for people who consider themselves to be significant. Arrogant. Significance, in order to exist relies on a comparison to insignificance. But the significance I speak of is not an arrogant, ego-based proclamation of superiority over Continue reading “The Most Important Question You Can Ever Ask Yourself” →