I’m sure you’ve heard it.
“Be present.”
It’s the only moment we really have, they say. Because if we’re living in our past, we’re re-living the pains and regrets of yesterday, and if we’re living in the future it can be a fearful and worrisome based vision of the uncertainty which lies ahead. The present moment, we’re told, is the sweet spot between the two.
But what if the present moment sucks?
Because sometimes it does.
Then what do we do?
The present moment has been marketed as the safe space between our past and our future. An emotional oasis of sorts. But just because it’s the present moment doesn’t mean it’s always a peaceful moment.
Being aware that the present moment sucks is a good thing. It means you’ve been able to step back from your inner emotional turmoil to assess and determine that, yes, this moment actually sucks. Much like a first responder needs to assess the situation on scene before going forward, our self awareness is the first step for us to move beyond the suck.
Sometimes the suck is just a temporary moment. Sometimes it’s much bigger than that.
Sometimes, though, the best thing you can do in this suck moment is give yourself the time and the space to let the present moment suck.
To accept it as it is.
To allow it to be as it is.
Not beating yourself up because it does.
Not shaming yourself because it does.
Because when the present moment sucks, the last thing you need is to be in an abusive relationship with yourself.
You’ll find a way through.
You always have.
