I probably won’t have the answer.
(Questions sometimes don’t have answers.)
I probably won’t fully understand, either.
And, no, I won’t know exactly how you feel.
What I can give you?
My full attention.
My open ears.
My open arms.
My open heart.
My infinite patience.
My silence if that’s what is needed.
I will never minimize the burden you carry.
I just won’t let you carry it alone.
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“Love begins wherever we can truly do something for each other.” – Gabriele Brüggemann
For something as important as love, for the most part you’re pretty much forced to figure it out on your own. The younger version of me learned about love by seeing it in action. Or, more accurately, by not seeing it in action. The examples of love I saw were for the most part silent, even secretive. Love, once initially established, tended to fall into the Understood category. You know I love you, so there isn’t really a need for me to remind you that I do. People in my world simply didn’t go around expressing their love for each other. It just wasn’t something that was done. Emotions, especially those of the loving kind, were best kept to yourself.
Especially for us males.
Maybe this describes your experience as well?
This older version of me has grown enough to grasp the idea that love can be a powerful life-changing force, an energy which can change things, including energy itself. And that energy changes people in a way only love can change them.
Love, the powerful version of love, is deep. Unconditional. Unlimited. But for love to be the force of change it can be, love needs to be proactively expressed. Consistently. Knowing someone loves you will only get you so far. But when you are proactively and consistently reminded someone loves you and has you and believes in you – especially for no specific reason other than that they do – that’s when love is at it’s most powerful, life-changing best. Continue reading “The One Secret To Never Keep Secret”